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Concentrate
Concentrate
...when your girl cheats on you with her EX, by kissing him, and telling me
that the kiss confirmed that she loved me and was only attracted to him. Not
only that, she went and slept with some random dude at a party a few days later,
where she was drunk and high of her ass. Then she writes me this big ass letter of
apology, saying that she didn't know why she did the things she did. She truly
loves me and is deeply sorry...blah blah blah. She is lucky I didn't beat the
sluttishness out of her. She tried to get back together, but I stayed strong.

But the truth is I miss her, not that much, but I do miss her. And in like 2.5
week, my semester starts again. And she's in 3 of my 5 classes. And today, I heard
that she tells all her girls about our personal life. I feel violated because of
that. I am really pissed of.

So tell me oh wise elderly, what do I do when my ex f**ks me over, so badly.
Sneftel
Sneftel
I generally describe it on a game development website. After all, if those guys can't help me with my relationship problems, who can?
Hardcharger
Hardcharger
Move on.

Focus on your life. She isn't in it anymore so she's nothing to you and you shouldn't worry about menial things such as "love" at such a young age.
Ravuya
Ravuya
Sever and move on.
MSW
MSW
Yep, move on. Learn from your mistakes so you don't repeat them.
Concentrate
Concentrate
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Original post by Sneftel
I generally describe it on a game development website. After all, if those guys can't help me with my relationship problems, who can?


I guess there has to be someone thats always a comedian.



I try to move on, and during the day time I don't think about her much, but at
night, I miss her. Its not easy to move on for me. Although, I do have another
girl that I talk to.
ChaosEngine
ChaosEngine
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She is lucky I didn't beat the sluttishness out of her.


Gee, with an attitude like that, I wonder why she ever strayed... [rolleyes]
if you think programming is like sex, you probably haven't done much of either.-------------- - capn_midnight
Drathis
Drathis
Let the anger go. Remember what happened to Darth Vader?
FableFox
FableFox
Quote "Let the anger go. Remember what happened to Darth Vader?"

I thought it was awesome? heh. heh.
jbadams
jbadams
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Original post by Concentrate
So tell me oh wise elderly, what do I do when my ex f**ks me over, so badly.
You get over it and move on; you may experience some awkwardness, and will probably miss her for a while, but those things should go away with time as long as you don't hold on to the relationship. Find a hobby or new relationships to fill your time while you get over it.

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And today, I heard that she tells all her girls about our personal life. I feel violated because of that.
Almost all girls do that. Deal with it.

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She is lucky I didn't beat the sluttishness out of her.
Not cool.



On an unrelated note, you don't have to hit the return key to break your post over multiple lines. If you just type in normal paragraphs the forum software will automatically format your post correctly for you and it won't look all strange and squashed to one side on widescreens.
- Jason Astle-Adams
Obscure
Obscure
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She is lucky I didn't beat the sluttishness out of her.

If that is what you think you are a sad and pathetic individual. There is nothing "lucky" about you not beating her. You have the right to end the relationship, which is what you should do, but you don't have the right to beat her up.

End the relationship - She is obviously messed up and needs to sort herself out before being in a relationship. So do you too given that you think beating her is even an option.[/quote]

Dan Marchant - Business Development Consultant
www.obscure.co.uk
szecs
szecs
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Find a hobby or new relationships to fill your time while you get over it.

???

Maybe the OP was just a filler himself (and see what happened). A relationship just for filling? I hope you meant fuck-buddy.
jbadams
jbadams
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Find a hobby or new relationships to fill your time while you get over it.
???
Maybe the OP was just a filler himself (and see what happened). A relationship just for filling? I hope you meant fuck-buddy.
Actually, I meant friendships, relationship doesn't always have to mean dating and/or sex. But sure, if that's what the OP needs there isn't neccesarily anything wrong with some casual fooling around.
- Jason Astle-Adams
DaWanderer
DaWanderer
[The following advice assumes you have no children with this girl]

I had something very similar happen to me. My advice? Block all communication, delete or trash any pics/videos you have of her, and give yourself some time to grieve. You will be happy again with someone else, but she is obviously not the one for you.
ApochPiQ
ApochPiQ
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I generally describe it on a game development website. After all, if those guys can't help me with my relationship problems, who can?


szecs
szecs
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I generally describe it on a game development website. After all, if those guys can't help me with my relationship problems, who can?




TEh usernames? One of them looks just like me, but I don't wear white clothes so he can't be be. Or can he??
mikeman
mikeman
Quote:

Let the anger go. Remember what happened to Darth Vader?


Destroyed the Sith and brought balance to the Force? :)

Anyway, why the hell did she told you that she cheated? That seems kind of stupid...nowadays, there are very few relationship that have lasted more than 1-2 years and nobody cheated...most times both cheat. It's just the way it is, not such a big deal, she felt like having sex with that dude at that moment, she did it, that's all. But telling you? Not cool. Move on, you will find a nice girl who loves and respects you enough to make the effort to hide it when she bangs another guy :P
mikeman
mikeman
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I generally describe it on a game development website. After all, if those guys can't help me with my relationship problems, who can?





Hey, we did have some cool looking guys, like Salsa or Mindwipe or...errr...well that't it, I'm out.
ApochPiQ
ApochPiQ
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I generally describe it on a game development website. After all, if those guys can't help me with my relationship problems, who can?




TEh usernames? One of them looks just like me, but I don't wear white clothes so he can't be be. Or can he??



I made that image a long time ago, but IIRC I just googled "nerds" and picked a likely-looking shot [grin]

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