But today I also have to deal with incompetent developers that work with me, stupid customer requests and etc. + I officially work 8 hours a day, and when I get back home, I sometimes program for another 3-4 hours. How is that different from being self employed who works 12-14 hours, but he does what he like most of the time, while I spend most of the time, doing what others want me to do.

How is that different?

I already wrote it in the post, though my English and communication skills do suck.

The bold font is there to put emphasis of the essence of what I'm trying to say.

So: As an employee, you can quit and get a new job pretty easily, if you don't like the job.

As an employee, it's much easier to try different jobs, even totally different (like programming or building saunas, or running you pancake stand).

As a business, you can't just simply do these. It's mush harder. And as a programmer, I don't think it's possible to always or mostly do what you love to do. My totally hobby programming projects have more tedious and boring work that fun work. Sure, the reward, the thrill is totally worth it, but I ended up with 10-20 unfinished projects, some were pretty big (and by the way, I haven't programmed since the Kraken contest, which was like a year ago.).

You can't afford that in your own business (um.... you can afford, of course, if you are supported by your parents/family with money, so you can pay your bills).

And you have stated a few times, that you don't know (or not sure, which is pretty much the same) what you want to do.

And thinking about, talking about and asking about what to do is not enough to know. You have to try different things, until you find out how you want to live.

EDIT: The most important thing to note, I am not saying that you should always be an employee. I only say that you should start your own business only if you really know what you want to work. Plus pretty much what L.Spiro said. He keeps learning, listening, while being an employee.

BTW, I found many of those thrilling moments with employee work too, and part of it was the freedom I had in doing the task.

I also doubt if being self employed gives you more freedom - (being self employed probably means you must worry about much more things than when being employee).

Personally I am interested in gamedev mostly, but when i was working in non game programming (though no web of scripting languages just clasical) it was always ok for me - maybe it was even better than working in gamedev because classical programming i found easier than gamedev (gamedev was a bit to hard)

PS. If we are talking about this I can say that i got quite a different problem: people at work distracts me (much). I feel at home I am a better programmer, i am working less resting more but producing more (well probably because measuring this is difficult but it seems so) - this distraction is probably one of the two reasons why i also dislike coding at work (the other is that at work I am not totally at ease and cannot rest freely if I need to)

I have roughly the same issue. I don't really love anything I might do enough to be sure paying thousands in college for it won't just leave me with a job I hate. One way to give yourself more time might be to become a landlord. As far as being self-employed goes landlording requires fairly little preparation, while potentially giving you enough to live off of for some time. If you've never bought a home before or are a veteran you can look into FHA or VA loans. Technically they just "gurantee" a loan that a bank gives you, enabling you to borrow more with less down than you could before. Biggerpockets.com provides tons of useful advice for free. Landlording requires fairly little work once you get it up and running, and you'll have some free time to determine what you'd like to do. Of course it can easily turn into a nightmare if you're not careful to learn before you dive in. Still, something to consider. Hope I helped!